If you’re reading this, chances are you’re somewhere between “I can’t believe I’m this age” and “what the hell comes next?” Welcome. You’re in the right place.
I created this site because I’m right there with you. Born in 1963, I’m at the tail end of the baby boomer generation, and I can tell you firsthand - our retirement doesn’t look anything like what we watched our older siblings and parents experience. We’re navigating uncharted territory, and frankly, most of the retirement advice out there feels like it was written for someone else’s generation.
Here’s the thing nobody tells you: we still feel young. We have things we want to do, contribute, and experience. And then we catch our reflection in a mirror or see a photo someone tagged us in, and reality hits. The disconnect between how we feel inside and what the calendar says can be jarring. But here’s what I’ve learned - that disconnect is not a negative thing.
Retirement for us isn’t about winding down. It’s not about finally earning the right to sit in a rocking chair and fade into the background. That image of retirement might have worked for previous generations, but it doesn’t fit who we are. We grew up in an era that told us we could do anything, be anything. We climbed corporate ladders, broke glass ceilings, reinvented ourselves multiple times, and adapted to a world that changed faster than anyone predicted. Why would we stop now?
The challenge - and this is especially true for women in our generation - is figuring out what this next chapter actually looks like. For decades, many of us built our identities around our careers, our roles as caregivers, or both. We were the generation that could “have it all,” which often meant we did it all. Now that the daily grind has loosened its grip, we’re left asking: who am I when I’m not defined by my job title, my productivity, or taking care of everyone else?
This is where the real work begins. Retirement isn’t just a financial transition - it’s an identity shift. It’s a chance to rediscover ourselves, to figure out what we actually want versus what we thought we should want. Maybe it’s starting that business you always dreamed about. Maybe it’s finally prioritizing your health and wellness. Maybe it’s traveling, volunteering, creating art, going back to school, or doing absolutely nothing for the first time in your adult life. The point is, we get to define it our way.
Of course, redefining retirement would be a lot easier if we didn’t have a million other things competing for our attention and resources. Let’s be honest about the challenges we’re facing. Many of us are still supporting adult children who are struggling with student debt and sky-high housing costs. We’re caring for aging parents while trying to figure out our own healthcare before Medicare kicks in. Our retirement accounts took hits we didn’t plan for - 2008 wasn’t kind to us, and neither was//is the recent inflation. Some of us are facing expectations from our adult children to provide childcare for grandchildren, adding another layer to our already full plates.
And then there’s technology. We’re capable - we adapted mid-career and learned to navigate the digital world - but we also remember a time before all of this. We’re caught between generations, fluent enough to function but sometimes exhausted by the constant changes.
These challenges are real, and we’ll talk about all of them here. But they don’t define us, and they won’t stop us. We’ve faced challenges before and figured them out. This phase of life is no different - it just requires a different playbook, one we’re writing ourselves.
This site exists because I believe we need a space that gets it. A place where we can have honest conversations about the financial pressures, the family obligations, the identity questions, and the excitement of possibility - all at the same time. A community where “retired” doesn’t mean irrelevant, invisible, or done. Where we can share what’s working, what’s not, and figure out this next chapter together.
So whether you’re newly retired, counting down the days, or somewhere in between, welcome. Let’s redefine what retirement means for our generation. Let’s figure out who we are when we’re not defined by deadlines and obligations. Let’s support each other through the challenges and celebrate the freedom we’ve earned.
Because here’s the truth: we’re retired, not dead. And this next chapter? It’s going to be whatever we make it.